What may be correct behavior for a Western woman to do in a relationship could possibly be rude, embarrassing, or both to a Japanese woman.
For many western men, dating a Japanese woman is a fantasy come true.
Mystery, myth and a special kind of sensuality surrounds Japanese women.
Somewhere in the minds of the males from the west is the thought that every Japanese woman could give a man the experience of a geisha.
What I’ve experienced comes from dating Japanese women myself and speaking with foreign men that lives there.
I’ve also had conversations with Japanese men as well that were married or dating.
Thus, your dating conduct will be guided by the expectations of your relationship.